John Vorhaus, noted poker player and author, coined an interesting phrase when talking about poker players. I believe it applies beyond poker, although it is much easier to explain in the context of a poker game.
If you have never played poker, perhaps you have seen the game played on television? Ten players sit around a table at their designated seats. In a regular casino game, also known as a ring game, seat selection is random. If you are sitting in a seat you do not like it, as soon as someone leaves their seat, and no one else has asked for a seat change, you are usually allowed to take the seat just vacated. Although there are exceptions, this is generally how it works.
Mr. Vorhaus noted an interesting situation which happens at the poker tables where people should change their seats for various reasons but do not. The term Mr. Vorhauss coined is, “ass glue”. Unfortunately I suffer from it more than I should. On a side note, if you are an aspiring poker player, Mr. Vorhauss has some excellent books, you may wish to add to your poker library. For the rest of us, we sometimes let ourselves be glued into our current situation all to easily.
It is easier not to find a better job, take some classes, read a self help book, or even learn to appreciate our job and do it better than it is to do nothing. For some of us being glued in place is our day to day personal life. We go through the same routine each day. A routine we really are not that happy with, but we do it anyway.
We finish up our day and it was the same as the day before. This ‘glue’ happens in all areas of our life! We did this activity or set of activities twenty years ago, and we are still doing them today. We have fallen in love, married, have children, and still try to live as we did before love, marriage, and family. Then we wonder why we are not happy, and our family is not happy.
As painful as the idea sounds we have to rip our selves out of the chair and live our life! We need to have new adventures, experience new hobbies, and gain new friends. This does not mean leaving your family behind while you go and do these things. Bring them with, and have fun as a family! This should be what our life is about, for most of us at any rate.
Once you are out of your parents house and starting your own life, you are now in a time period known as - the rest of your life. The rest of your life may end in thirty seconds, later today, tomorrow, or decades from now, but it will end sometime.
One thing is certain, you will never be more alive than you are right now, nor will your family, friends, and friends to be. No one you know or will know will ever be as alive as they are right now! We have all heard of someone who worked and saved all their life for that wonderful retirement only to have it snatched from their fingers by some tragedy. Don’t let that person be you!
Change is good, everything changes, nothing stays the same. If you are fortunate in your life, you will live long enough to get old! You will think about the good times you had when you were young. It is horrible to be old and think about all the things you could have done, but did not.
Reality is that some of us reading this right now will not wake up tomorrow. Go do things today! Use your body, it has no use beyond what you do with it. Life will be much more satisfying when you think back on all the things you tried and did, whether they worked or not, than to sit and think about all the things you could have done or were going to do, but did not. Do not let glue control your life.
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