Fishing for happiness

I do want to go fishing and spring does not seem to be getting here quickly enough for me to get out and do some fishing. The weather has been warm, above average. Maybe it won’t be too much longer until I am sitting by the lake with the sun shining, birds singing, and a cooler full of fun.

I will happily wait until the day actually gets here because there is always a lot of life to enjoy between this moment and some moment in the future. It is even a possible I won’t be around when the day actually arrives, so I choose to enjoy each day while I wait.

As I have mentioned before in other posts, remembering that I am mortal, makes each day special. Even those days when everything seems to go wrong or against me. Sort of like a bad day fishing when everything is perfect. Except the fish are not biting, and out of nowhere a breeze starts.

Then in what seems like a moment, the wind is gale force, and the sun is hidden behind dark rolling clouds with lightening streaming from them…mostly towards me. Even those days are happy enjoyable days. I was fishing, enjoying a beautiful day, and now I have a front row seat for a little of natures springtime fury. Almost a special show created for my viewing pleasure.

Looking for happiness is a lot like fishing. Maybe looking for happiness should be fishing for happiness, because in essence that is how it is done. I have never found happiness laying on the floor next to my bed in the morning. Nor have I found happiness waiting outside on the porch, or waiting quietly anywhere else.

If I am not happy, I go out and fish for happiness. Unlike the movie that coined the phrase, “Build it and they will come”, happiness does not happen that way in real life. When I fish, I fish in different areas around the lake. I fish in one spot for a bit, and if nothing happens I move to another spot. If I catch a nice fish at one spot, I may stay fishing right there longer in hopes of catching more fish.

What is funny, is for me, the type or size of fish really does not matter. Happiness is the same way come to think of it. I don’t go out and work and sweat for a record piece of happiness. I find that I am happier when I find situations that make me happy throughout out my day.

Perhaps I really do fish for happiness, one little piece at a time, all day long. Happiness, like fishing takes a little initiative, but it is well worth the small effort it takes to be happy. In my experience same as fishing, if I try a little happiness, the rewards I receive are more than I expect most of the time.

If you wake up tomorrow and are feeling a little blue, take my suggestion. Get out there and fish for a little happiness. Happiness is out there waiting for the patient fisherman.

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Pay it Forward with Heart

On CNN Headline News early this morning was another all too familiar segment at one Starbucks drive through, with Starbucks’ customers who were, ‘Paying it forward’.

Before he retired, I used to occasionally run into a man named Johnny, who I did not particularly like. I thought Johnny was intentionally course, rude, and generally dressed worse than a second hand store could manage if he raised his standards enough to shop at one. His clothing of course was probably better than I dress now, but that is a different topic.

Johnny did one amazing selfless act twice a year that made me feel very small twice a year. Twice a year Johnny received a work bonus check, usually between One Thousand and Fifteen Hundred dollars – after taxes. It was what Johnny did with his bonus check that both amazed and humbled me. Twice a year Johnny would reduce his bonus check down to an equal amount stack of twenty dollar bills.

Johnny would get into into his old tank of a car and head down to a city park where homeless people hung out. Johnny would park his clunker and get out. Starting at one end of the park Johnny worked his way around handing out twenty dollar bills to every homeless person present. If he had any cash left, Johnny headed down to the next park where he knew more homeless folks hung out.

Besides myself, and perhaps to to four other people who could stand being around Johnny, no one of knew he willingly gave away between two and three thousand dollars a year without a second thought. I asked Johnny, ‘Why?’ the second year he was about to go donate, and he said something to the effect of, ‘They need the money, and I do not’.

Around the same time period, a small local group raised over Ten Thousand Dollars through car washes, bake sales, etc. They tried to donate this money to a homeless shelter, but there was a problem over who the donating was, and the money was rejected.

They were not criminals, gang, or drug selling criminals, simply men and women who shared a common vision of helping. Eventually on the fourth or fifth attempt they found a homeless shelter that was happy to take their money. The story made the local news, not because a small volunteer group tried to donate such a large amount of hard earned cash to a homeless shelter, but because of who they were.

Back to Starbucks and the present. I want to say Starbucks is a great company. They do great things for their employees, and they serve hot tasty drinks to me on a regular basis. CNN is a great news service. I depend on CNN when I want to see the news at any odd hour of the day or night.

But why is this, ‘Pay It Forward’ at a Starbucks, McDonalds, or other giant…gaining this type of attention from news behemoths like CNN? Does it really make us feel good to pay for another persons coffee at a drive through when those folks we are paying for are more than able to pay for their own drinks and treats? Is this a new American compassion, our new American public display of selflessness and helping?

How about reinvigorating ‘Pay It Forward’ with real meaning rather than a false feel good? How about doubling your order, whatever it is and giving your second order out to a momentarily fortunate homeless man or woman you spy hanging out on the route you are driving? I bet they really would appreciate a hot, tasty, expensive cup of coffee. I bet they might even be grateful? Don’t expect them to pay it forward as generously as you did when you spent a few ‘spare’ dollars, and a minute of your time to ‘Pay It Forward’.

The small group that tried to do a charitable service I wrote of earlier broke up. The negative publicity sent them back into the shadows, or I should clarify, there was little future publicity about them.

Be on the lookout for Johnny though, he may be out there doing his thing at the same time you hand out your second cup of coffee. You would not want to mistake Johnny for a homeless person, even though he may look like one. Johnny doesn’t need the handout, and probably would not bother with a thank you if you asked for a sincere one. But you might get on television….

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