Accept or Change Your Life
We are our own worst enemies, no one else is. We do more to hurt and frustrate ourselves each day than a a group of people can do as a concerted effort. How much time each day do you spend thinking about yourself compared to the amount of time you spend thinking about other people? Other people are exactly the same. They may spend a few moments thinking about you, but they spend a majority of their time thinking about themselves.
One of the most frustrating experiences of my early years were the people that always seemed to be around me. Most of them were good solid people, but there were always one or two who I preferred not to be around. Yet when no one else was around those people would manage somehow to be the only people around when I needed help.
It took many years for me to figure out that these people were in my life because I was drawing them to me. Everything I disliked about these people were a part of me. Once I figured that out and accepted everyone for what they were, these abrasive people disappeared into the woodwork, and rarely made any further appearance in my life.
Our world and the people around us are our creation and choice. No matter if our life is very good, very frustrating, or run of the mill, it is all of our doing. We are the masters of our creation. We create ourselves and as a result we create an environment for for everything around us. As green plants do not live in darkness, everything in our world is there because it is like us in some way.
While that may on the surface sound very self centered and selfish, nothing is further from the truth. Think about your life and the people around you. Everyone in your life is more or less like you are. They generally have the same hopes, fears, and lifestyle as you do.
People in your life you enjoy the most are those people who exhibit those parts of you that you want to display or promote in yourself. Those people you would rather were somewhere else share those traits that you actually exhibit, whether you are aware of it or not.
The easiest way to remove people from your life you would prefer were not in it is to accept them for what they are, and accept that they are a reflection of what you show the world. No matter what people do to aggravate or frustrate you, they are only reflecting back to you what you are showing the world.
Accepting people who frustrate you and appreciating them for what they are is accepting yourself for what you are. Once you accept people you dislike in your life, and learn to appreciate them, you are accepting and appreciating yourself too. As you accept them for what and who they are, they will slowly start to distance themselves from your life.
One day you will realize that they are no longer a part of your life, and you will wonder when and how they disappeared without you noticing.
We all are the creators of our own life. Our life’s creation is our free will at work. When portions of your life are unpleasant, remember you created situations that allow them to occur. Knowing you are responsible for what they are, accepting them, and learning from them helps you get your life where you want it to be.
