I have written many posts talking around how to enjoy your life and how to be happy. In other posts I have touched on areas of personal life including stepping up and taking charge of the life you want and were meant to live. What I have not touched on is how to bring your personal power into your life. Instead I have circled around personal power and how to use it to better your life.

Family life, or what passes for family life is where our personal power is initially recognized or quashed. Unhealthy home environments cripple and skew us, and we do not even know it. Personal relationships also either promote or deny our personal power. Some of us choose to give up our personal power rather than leave an unhealthy relationship. What goes on in our own head and how others perceive us, either promotes or takes away our personal power. Those around us prefer we are clones of themselves, and do not want you to be different from them.

The worst offender and destroyer of our personal power is social conditioning. Watching any healthy normal ten year old, you see a powerhouse of energy and optimism. Six years later you see a child who has been changed into a timid, insecure shell of what they were. Media and peer pressure have drained away their personal power, and turned a ten year old kid who could rule the world into an unsure, insecure, overly sensitive young adult.

Some people go to extraordinary lengths to regain their personal power. They climb mountains, hike through deserts, dive to the bottom of the ocean, undergo drastic surgeries, mainly cosmetic. Other spend time with therapists and counselors working up to the point where they allow themselves to see how they can fix themselves. Yet the path to individual personal power can be made easier.

You do not have to take steps as drastic or dangerous as some people do to regain their personal power. You do have to make some choices and changes, firming up your resolve to regain what you lost. If you wish to reclaim your personal power and remake your life into what it should be, you can do it, you just need to know deliberate change is not easy.

Anyone who feels they have no personal power, or their power has been taken from them, feels it is difficult, almost impossible to retrieve their personal power. Whether you have given away your personal power or allowed to be taken from you, it becomes easy to reclaim your personal power once you decide you want it back. Of course someone does not want you to have it back and you must have resolve to impose your will in your life. At this point reclaiming and keeping your personal power becomes a test of will.

How do you start to reclaim your personal power? With small steps of course. You lost your personal power in small steps and regaining your personal power is done in small steps too. The first step is setting your resolve. There will be attempts to stop you and soften your resolve either directly or indirectly. You must decide to stand firm before you start your journey back.

Once you have set your resolve and acknowledged that there will be obstacles to overcome, pick something small, but important to you. It may be something as simple as allowing someone close to you to make a mistake on their own. It may be showing your child how to launder their own clothes, and allowing them to wear dirty, wrinkled clothes, believing you will cave in and begin to do laundry for them once more.

When you know you have taken back your personal power in your first small area, it is time to pick another. Do not try to go too fast, it took time to lose your personal power and it will take time to get it back. It is easer to move slowly with firm resolve than to lose your resolve because you tried to change everything in your life in one fell swoop. If you had the resolve to change everything at once, you would not be wanting to reclaim what is already yours. Trying to do too much at once is why most people fail. Go slow, and step firmly and allow your resolve to be your beacon.