With the human faults of another famous role model being dragged across every media outlet from ‘Breaking News’, to the least respected tabloid, it is once again time to look at the fantasy that some people choose to live in. We have another rich and talented person who suddenly has something between affairs and one night stands coming out of the woodwork on every turn of the calendar date.
Whether true or not is irrelevant as the damage is done. The irony being the perpetuator in this scenario is the one with the most to lose. It is as if a carefully crafted game was created for the sole purpose of toppling another ‘Golden Child’ from his throne. Topple he will, with gigantic monetary losses being among the least important long term loss he suffers
Without many exceptions any married person has had the prospect of illicit romance hover in the corners of their married life. I doubt anyone who is involved in a serious relationship is immune to the possibility that some day at some point, one will have to make a decision whether to cross that line or not.
Most people I want to think choose not to take that final step, or at least I hope most people choose not to. The reasons why not may be varied, but I think the most important reason is each of us looks at ourselves in the mirror each morning and we should like the person looking back at us.
Relationships are rarely the ideals we like to think they are. No one is out there waiting to spend their life filling our every whim and desire. Even if someone were to try they would fail, for as soon as we have everything, we want something more. Relationships are the ultimate learning and proving ground. Whether they last a month or a lifetime, they are an arena where our souls are bared, and our emotions are on the line. What happens next decides whether the relationship is a success or not.
Cheating in a relationship hurts the other person in the short term. It hurts the person doing the cheating forever. Never again will they be trusted by those they once cared for them with all their being. Nor will they be as trusted ever again by the next person willing to enter into a relationship with them. No one should be willing to trust their hard earned money to a bank that has shown to be irresponsible, and fewer still should be willing to enter into a relationship with someone who was unfaithful to another for selfish reasons.
Sometimes relationships break down to the point where they can not be fixed. Sometimes relationships that start out good fizzle away into nothingness. When that happens it is time to access the situation and decide whether it is time to call it quits. It is not the time to go out looking somewhere else for something that likely does not exist in the first place.
I don’t have the burden of being either rich or famous. I don’t have women all over the world plotting and scheming on how they will make me one of their conquests, garnering millions of dollars in the process, and perhaps thirty minutes of fame. While we all dream of a life of being rich and famous, when push comes to shove, being true to ourselves is a much more precious and satisfying choice.
As much as the world wants to pull down years of hero status and admiration for this individual, one lesson is again glaringly obvious. No matter who we think someone is, or what they have achieved in their life, they are first and foremost human. As we all know from our own individual life: To be human is to make mistakes. We try to make mistakes we can still look in the mirror at ourself afterwards and like who we see. We also need to be gentle with those who can not look in a mirror and see someone they approve of.
I remember my folks saying so and so was seeing spiders and mice crawling around their room during the first days of ‘drying out’. That meant they have a severe alcohol addiction. Other than that I have no first hand experience with this happening to anyone I know.