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LOA For Today and LOA For Tomorrow

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Everyone wants to know about Law of Attraction, or LOA. Some people want to prove LOA is nonsense. A few well meaning people and a few scammers want to make money from the ‘idea’ of LOA. Other people want to know how to make LOA to work for them. Some people are unsure what LOA really is, and how to apply it to their lives.

They have a vague idea of LOA from snippets here and there, but not enough of an idea to really know what LOA is or how it works. Reading the rest of this post will change all that, and you will become your own LOA expert.

Here is a simple example for you to do to help you understand LOA in action.It will take either doing the task, or pretending to do the task, which ever works best for you. However doing it works better.

Take a blank sheet of printer paper and something to write or color it with. Sit down at a desk or table with your paper and pen until you are satisfied with what you have done to the sheet of paper, or until the paper is beyond recovery. There are no extra points for artistry. Same for making something you are not so proud of. As long as you try is what matters most.??What you did to the paper is generally how LOA works in our lives. We each create our own world to some extent. We are like the paper. We have some pre-imposed constraints in our world. We are also like the pen, pencil, crayon, or marker.

You choose your world beyond the restraints imposed by the paper by changing and modifying your world. LOA in your life is you being the paper, and at the same time you are the pen or marker that can changes the paper into something else.

Real world examples of LOA in action are easy to find and relevant to you right now. People like  you and me, and everyone else all have links to LOA, even though we may not know we do. LOA was not just invented, nor has it been hidden away in a treasure chest, as a dusty tome of arcane knowledge. LOA does need some help from you to really work. LOA needs your help to help you to be successful in your life.

First and foremost, you must have a strong Desire for something. If you have no strong Desire, your wants changes from hour to hour, and day to day. Weak Desires float into and out of your world when there is no strong Desire.

Determination needs to be present. Without Determination, there is no Desire to accomplish any but those most immediate goals that take minimum effort. You need to be determined for LOA to happen in your life.

Intent is required for LOA to be effective. There are many things we have a Desire for, and for some of those things we are Determined. If you do not have Intent, Desire and Determination mean little. Intent is a glue holding everything together.

Focus is something you have to apply. If you are too distracted to stay Focused on getting what you want, it usually will not happen. If Focus is not present, it is easy to make decisions or not make decisions, that take you farther away from your goal, and not closer to it.

Lack of Will Power gives you the strength to not give up. Most people think they do things by will power. Will Power on its own is useless. If you depended on Will Power to get you through life, you would not be reading this unless it is at a library for free. Will Power means making the choices because you want to. Lack of Will Power is setting aside what you want at the moment for what you want in the future.

Last but not least you need to be flexible and adaptable. Flexibility and adaptability is what makes immigrants successful. People arrive in our country not speaking a word of English, and looking like they came from somewhere else. If you could see them a few months later, you would be surprised. They look like they belong here, they are making a living, and they are happy. They have been flexible and adaptable enough to find a way to thrive.

Every successful person uses LOA in some form or another. They put all their tools in place, they use them,  and they refuse to leave the path they have set out on. This is not how LOA works in a hyped up scammers version of LOA. This is real LOA in action. While the media would have you believe you something and suddenly you have everything, it just isn’t so.

You have to want, and you have to use the tools I wrote of that we all have. You have to apply them and go forward against all adversity. Finally while you feel you may be losing ground or net getting what you want, you have to dig deep and believe in yourself.

You were born with everything you need for LOA to bring you almost everything you desire. You may fall short of some goals you set for yourself. No one can have everything. You will find you are much closer than you were before you started applying the tools that allow LOA to happen!

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Witchcraft and Limiting Beliefs

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There are a couple of different reasons that have brought about this post. One reason is a short note to someone who suddenly has an interest in learning about Witchcraft. The second reason is a thread I was following on Limiting Beliefs. These two different topics are more intertwined with each other than they are apart.

Witchcraft in the minds of some people is evil. Anyone who even mentions Witchcraft is in danger of compromising their soul. If someone might actively pursue knowledge of such a taboo subject they are surely doomed. Truth is, the closer you get to a subject, the more you learn what is true, and what you only thought was true.

Finding worthwhile information on Witchcraft is a study in absurdity and circles. In this period of ‘New Age’, one can go to almost any book store and find any number of books about Witchcraft, how to cast spells, or how to be a Witch. Many books are not worth the paper they are printed when useful information gained is measured against each dollar spent.

Searching the internet, one can find endless web pages, references and groups on Witchcraft. Again, most of what is written is of little or no use to anyone. Finding and joining a group of ‘Witches’ can be dangerous. Some leaders of these groups are really pursuing personal power, sex, or money, maybe all three. Anything resembling true understanding may not exist in these groups. Finding a group or an individual who is real and is willing to share takes a lot of patience and time.

Limiting Beliefs on the other hand makes the world most of us choose to live in. Some of us have a hard time reading past the word ‘choose’ in the first sentence. Yet our world is mostly comprised of what we choose to believe, more than by what we are limited to.

Some examples of limiting beliefs are: ‘The world is out to get me’, ‘I am stupid’, ‘Everyone is happy except me’, ‘my life is worthless’, ‘I do not deserve anything’, and so on. Limiting Beliefs are the concrete walls of our world. Without limiting beliefs to structure our world, we would not know what to do or how to conduct ourselves.

Identifying Limiting Beliefs in ourselves is a scary process most people do not willingly undertake. One reason is uncovering Limiting Beliefs takes us to places most of us do not want to go. Holding in our hands a collection of what we know is false truths we use to define our life is not fun. It is more fun to pretend our Limiting Beliefs are real.

If we dare identify and collect our own Limiting Beliefs, what are we going to do with them? If we made our Limiting Beliefs vanish, we would have this huge empty void in our lives. Suddenly our life would have no walls and no restraints. We would be free to do whatever we wanted with our life. This is a lot of responsibility most of us are not ready to deal with.

This is how Witchcraft and Limiting Beliefs are intertwined. They are two differing approaches to the same end. The endpoint connection between Witchcraft and Limiting Beliefs is two fold. Thinking, saying, or writing that one wants to pursue anything even remotely taboo raises eyebrows, questions, and causes some amount of fear in those around us. Following up on that thought is blasphemy in the eyes and minds of some. Imagining and verbalizing a world different than what we believe it to be also causes the same responses.

As our knowledge grows parts of the walls surrounding us crumbles, and is replaced by nothing. The knowledge we gain may be completely opposite of what we thought we were pursuing. Knowledge does not have to be scary to crumble the opaque walls of our Limiting Beliefs.

Arcane knowledge when properly understood generally reveals itself to be different than what we expected. In the process of learning, we also find out about ourselves, and possibly a world we once knew, but forgot. Regaining what we once knew and forgot, can help release us from hanging on to Limiting Beliefs we no longer need.

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Marion Jones Basketball Star

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Congratulations Marion Jones, making the cut for the Women’s National Basketball Associations Team roster for the Tulsa Shock!

Marion Jones, the former Olympic sprinter is now the oldest rookie ever in the WNBA. I hope Marion Jones succeeds, and proves to be a long awaited inspiration for young women the world over who I believe she is.

Sometimes to get to where we should be, we have to go through any number of trials and tribulations. In some cases these challenges prove to be almost too much for mere mortals. For those that survive their downfall, a new opportunity arises. I hope this is that opportunity for Marion Jones.

For all of us, life throws choices in our lives that we are not prepared for. Sometimes our choices, no matter how sincere and well meaning at the time, go awry and we are left with tiny pieces of what was our life dream. It is not an easy matter to pull yourself up, put your life back together, and start out from the beginning in yet another quest to finish the journey long ago started.

The world needs role models, and unfortunately not all role models are perfect in all areas of their lives. Most role models are merely human. A few role models have made  grave mistakes in their lives. Others have made mistakes which in the end have only hurt themselves. Some have done both. Not all survive their downfall, get their life back together, and begin to create their destiny one more time.

I think I have been one of the few who have thought even in the face of strong adversity, and a few less than stellar life choices, Marion Jones will someday show her real self and become all she was meant to be. I hope this is the start of what I hope will be true.

Good luck Marion Jones, I am cheering for you!

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Raising Your Parents – For Oppressed Teens

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Believe it or not, many children feel they have over protective parents. They feel their Parents are unreasonable in approving requests from their children. While it may be common for Parents with all their children, it seems from my experience to be most common with the oldest or only child. It also starts becoming an issue from the Pre-Teen to Young Adult.

I thought this would help a teenager understand why their parents are acting the way they do. It may also help Parents who have been ‘accused’ by their children of being too protective for something the child feels is an age appropriate activity.

To understand you have to start thinking about when your parents were younger, before you came along. Your Parents inherited certain behaviors from their parents. Right or wrong was how their parents raised them. Some of those practices they modified or disposed of reasons only your Parents know.

Your parents also have their own personalities effecting their parenting style and ability. If your Parents are quiet stay at home types, and you like loud clothes, being around strange people, and trying new things, the way your parents and you think will be pretty different. The closer you are to your Parents personalities the less of a difference there is between you.

Other parental behaviors your parents use or adapted are because they are effective. Their behavior or actions may not seem reasonable, but they work and make the job of parenting easier for your Parents.

Because your Parents had you, and maybe other brothers or sisters too, something happens in the life of your Parents that you never notice. Your Parents at some point in their lives stopped growing and living for themselves.

Instead your Parents became Parents, and all their energies and actions have been mostly diverted to you and your siblings, if you have any. This is a very important thought to keep in mind.

From the time you were born to now, your Parents have been your Parents and you have been the child. Even though you are growing up, your Parents either do not notice, or choose not to notice.

What happens to Parents as their children grow up is hard on them. From the time you were born until now, your folks never thought about the fact they are getting older. They never thought about life without you in it twenty-four-seven. They never thought about what happens when you to leave home to start your own life away from them. All these thoughts and hundreds of other thoughts just like them are thoughts are flooding into your parents minds right now.

Your Parents have been used to you being right next to them, where they can protect you and keep you form harm. Now, suddenly you want to do things that happen out of their sight, and by default out of their control. This is very scary for your folks because they can’t be their to help you if you need them.

Added to this is your world is changing and becoming larger and more complex. Your body is changing. Your likes and dislikes are starting to become your own, and what you think is evolving. This too is scary for your Parents because they know you no longer share everything with them. They hope you are doing the right things, but they are concerned you may be hanging around with others who do not do the right things. They get scared about this.

Here is a short but long list of what your Parents are thinking and feeling. From your Parent’s perspective it only scratches the surface of their concerns and fears:

You are still your Parents little boy, or little girl with emphasis on the word little

You are growing up

They are growing older

In a few years you will be moving out of the house

You are starting to keep secrets

You are spending time doing things your parents can not see or control

Your Parents are facing the fact they are close to middle age and that means much closer to getting old

Your Parents are afraid of their life without you in it as have been since you were born

Your Parents are worried for your and their future, because they both are unknown, and can only be guessed at

Your Parents are scared they will lose you

If you can understand your Parents concerns and fears, it may help all of you get through the next few years easier than if both they and you pretend none of these things is happening. For your part, these are valid concerns or fears of your Parents, and under no circumstances should you use them as weapons to hurt your Parents.

What you can do is work on gaining your Parents trust. You do this by becoming responsible, and taking care of your obligations. This means doing your chores if you have any. Helping without being asked, and being grateful for what you do have. Those are lofty goals to ask of you, but that is what most Parents want from their teenage children.

Above all, when something does not go as planned, and it surly will, remember it is your Parents concern for you, combined with their fear that created the situation. Knowing this will not change it, but hopefully it will help you to understand why it happens.

Good luck raising your Parents, the first real parenting task you have to do. Hopefully you will do it well.

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Heart and Mind, Two Paths

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We sometimes go through short periods when we feel distanced from the world and everything in it. Some people feel this distancing in their relationships. They feel as if they are separate form their family members and others around them.

Other people feel distant in their beliefs. They feel as if they have been abandoned or neglected. God is in the lives of others, but for some unknown reason has abandoned them. Other still feel distanced from the human race and all the earth. They feel as if they live in a universe of one which is themselves, and everyone else lives in a different universe.

All these feelings are common at different times in peoples lives. This distancing happens for different reasons, but generally it happens because we forget we should live our lives through our heart and not our mind. When this distancing lasts longer than a few days, something else is going on, and we need to get ourselves right again.

When we live our life through our mind, everything in our world is processed through our ego, and sent to our conscious self. What happens when we live our life this way is our life is processed and controlled through our ego. Our emotions become dulled and our sense of belonging dwindles away.

Our ego unfortunately is the Supreme Being of our mind. Nothing surpasses our ego, and our ego serves only one master, itself. When our ego is not satisfied or feels threatened, our ego starts generating feelings of distancing from those around us. Other people are not giving our ego what it wants, so it is separating us from those around us. This helps ego retain its feeling of self importance.

If we do not fix ourselves when feeling this way, this feeling continues and we feel more and more distant. For some people this distancing is perplexing, for others it is depressing, and for a few it leads to thoughts of suicide. No matter where it leads or how we feel, distancing is something that needs to be addressed and fixed so we can feel a part of the world around us as we should.

What needs to be done is we need to take charge, and change the way we interact with the world. Everyone knows a bubbly always happy person. They can step outside in a thunderstorm, get soaked, look at the sky and have a clap of thunder drown out themselves saying, “Isn’t it a wonderful day?”, and really mean it. Usually, we look and wonder what is wrong with them that they can find something magical on this kind of day.

What these people do that some of us have forgotten how to do is they are living their life through their heart, and not their mind. When we live our lives through our heart there is no disconnection from the world and those around us. Everything around us is magical, wonderful, and absolutely perfect. We are one with the world, and the world is one with us.

Living life through our heart makes us one with everything whereas living life through our mind creates feelings of being separate from everything around us. Living life through our heart melds us with the world around us. From the smallest insect to all that is, we are one with the whole.

It is easy to tell where we are living our life from once we see we can live our life through our mind, or through our heart. If from waking up in the morning to the time we go to bed all we see is misery, and all we feel is pain, sometimes both physical and emotional, we are living our life through our head. Somewhere in our past, our ego was threatened and it took measures to prop itself up to the status it thinks it deserves.

If we wake to a wonderful day, and the magic happens around us everywhere we look, and we go to bed thankful for the experience of another day of life, we are living our life totally through our heart. We can actually feel joy and happiness flowing through our heart, out into the world, and throughout our body.

Thinking everyone can live their life completely and unselfishly through their heart is a wonderful thought, and a fantasy at best. Believing that we can change the mixture of what body part we choose to live our life through is not only reasonable it is easy if you truly want to.

Let your heart guide your path throughout your day for one complete day, and let your mind run the next day. Compare each day with the day previous. Which day do you want to live over?

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Learn How To Meditate

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Do you want to learn to meditate? Have you heard good things about meditation, yet you do not know anyone who actually meditates? If you want to learn how to meditate you have found a good starting point. There are classes, books, and videos out there you can read, rent, or buy, but reading this article and some practice on your own, and you will know almost everything you need to know to meditate.

  1. You have to be in the right mindset to meditate and get anything out of it. This means, don’t be anxious, concerned, nervous, or distracted, or meditation will not be as fruitful as it could be.
  2. You should be fairly rested. If you are overly tired meditation is hard to accomplish.
  3. Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed by people, pets, or outside noises. You generally need fifteen to twenty minutes, though perhaps a longer period is better at first because it will take you longer to learn to become comfortable and relax.
  4. Sit down or lay down in a comfortable position. You want to learn what meditation feels like, not struggle with your body’s comfort. Light or darkness does not really matter all that much as you will have your eyes closed. The exception is you do not want light so bright it is distracting even with your eyes closed, or darkness if you find it distracting.
  5. Get comfortable and relax. Check all your body parts, asking each body if it is comfortable and relaxed. This sounds silly, but it is very important because you need to be aware of your body. You body has a voices or voices, and meditation will help you to hear them.
  6. Have patience. It takes time to learn how to meditate because you are not used to doing nothing. Be still, stop thinking, and let your mind be still.
  7. Pretend your mind is a blackboard in a school room. All thoughts you have will be written on the blackboard, or expressed in simple pictures anyone could draw. When a thought or picture is being written on the blackboard, erase it with your mind.

Do not set your expectations very high for the first month or so. You may only manage a few seconds of having your mind quiet. This is the norm, so do not expect more at first. Each time you practice, it will become a little easier to relax and let your mind relax too. Sometimes you may fall asleep, that is okay, it is all part of the learning process. For some it is also a balancing act.

Some people also become frustrated because they feel they are almost there, and then they are startled awake. This happens sometimes, but with more practice, most people can move past this roadblock.

As you become better at relaxing your body and your mind, you will start to enjoy the fun. Your mind will start to take you places, sometimes physical, sometimes not. Relax and enjoy the wandering. Your mind is working on solutions for things you may not even be aware of in your life.

As time goes and you get better at meditating, you may start to hear voices. Pay attention to them. If there are multiple voices, try to separate the different voices. If you hear a single voice, try to understand the words. Sometimes the words are nonsense. Sometimes careful listening will have its rewards. Different people have different ideas about who and what the voices are. For me they are external, and belong to separate complete beings. For others they are parts of themselves.

In a very, very few people, suddenly, and without warning you may find yourself somewhere you have never been before, with someone or something standing in front of you whom you have never seen before. Try not to be startled, and don’t get scared, it is perfectly natural. Remember to breath in and out and do not be afraid to speak to them.

They will understand you when you speak, and they will talk to you. Treat them like you would a stranger, be polite, but not too casual. They usually want to be your friend, and most of them want to help you, but a very few do not. Do not judge them by their looks, as they can look like anything they choose to.

Almost always they wish to help you. Listen to what they have to say. They are usually a literal book of knowledge, and know things you do not know that will help you. You may, if you are lucky, find you have been interacting with them for some time and were not aware of it until now.

For others you find you do not approve of, or you do not like what they have to say about you, or suggest to you, be aggressive. If you do not like what they say, or it sounds harmful to you, tell them to go away and mean it. They will leave.

The younger you are the more difficult this is in the beginning. I think this is because young people have so much uncontrolled energy, they spew it all over the universe without even realizing what they are doing. As you are serious, and if you continue to practice, you will be there before you know it. Good luck!

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