LOA For Today and LOA For Tomorrow

Posted on May 24, 2010 by venagozar

Everyone wants to know about Law of Attraction, or LOA. Some people want to prove LOA is nonsense. A few well meaning people and a few scammers want to make money from the ‘idea’ of LOA. Other people want to know how to make LOA to work for them. Some people are unsure what LOA really is, and how to apply it to their lives.

They have a vague idea of LOA from snippets here and there, but not enough of an idea to really know what LOA is or how it works. Reading the rest of this post will change all that, and you will become your own LOA expert.

Here is a simple example for you to do to help you understand LOA in action.It will take either doing the task, or pretending to do the task, which ever works best for you. However doing it works better.

Take a blank sheet of printer paper and something to write or color it with. Sit down at a desk or table with your paper and pen until you are satisfied with what you have done to the sheet of paper, or until the paper is beyond recovery. There are no extra points for artistry. Same for making something you are not so proud of. As long as you try is what matters most.??What you did to the paper is generally how LOA works in our lives. We each create our own world to some extent. We are like the paper. We have some pre-imposed constraints in our world. We are also like the pen, pencil, crayon, or marker.

You choose your world beyond the restraints imposed by the paper by changing and modifying your world. LOA in your life is you being the paper, and at the same time you are the pen or marker that can changes the paper into something else.

Real world examples of LOA in action are easy to find and relevant to you right now. People like you and me, and everyone else all have links to LOA, even though we may not know we do. LOA was not just invented, nor has it been hidden away in a treasure chest, as a dusty tome of arcane knowledge. LOA does need some help from you to really work. LOA needs your help to help you to be successful in your life.

First and foremost, you must have a strong Desire for something. If you have no strong Desire, your wants changes from hour to hour, and day to day. Weak Desires float into and out of your world when there is no strong Desire.

Determination needs to be present. Without Determination, there is no Desire to accomplish any but those most immediate goals that take minimum effort. You need to be determined for LOA to happen in your life.

Intent is required for LOA to be effective. There are many things we have a Desire for, and for some of those things we are Determined. If you do not have Intent, Desire and Determination mean little. Intent is a glue holding everything together.

Focus is something you have to apply. If you are too distracted to stay Focused on getting what you want, it usually will not happen. If Focus is not present, it is easy to make decisions or not make decisions, that take you farther away from your goal, and not closer to it.

Lack of Will Power gives you the strength to not give up. Most people think they do things by will power. Will Power on its own is useless. If you depended on Will Power to get you through life, you would not be reading this unless it is at a library for free. Will Power means making the choices because you want to. Lack of Will Power is setting aside what you want at the moment for what you want in the future.

Last but not least you need to be flexible and adaptable. Flexibility and adaptability is what makes immigrants successful. People arrive in our country not speaking a word of English, and looking like they came from somewhere else. If you could see them a few months later, you would be surprised. They look like they belong here, they are making a living, and they are happy. They have been flexible and adaptable enough to find a way to thrive.

Every successful person uses LOA in some form or another. They put all their tools in place, they use them, and they refuse to leave the path they have set out on. This is not how LOA works in a hyped up scammers version of LOA. This is real LOA in action. While the media would have you believe you something and suddenly you have everything, it just isn’t so.

You have to want, and you have to use the tools I wrote of that we all have. You have to apply them and go forward against all adversity. Finally while you feel you may be losing ground or net getting what you want, you have to dig deep and believe in yourself.

You were born with everything you need for LOA to bring you almost everything you desire. You may fall short of some goals you set for yourself. No one can have everything. You will find you are much closer than you were before you started applying the tools that allow LOA to happen!

Heart and Mind, Two Paths

Posted on May 8, 2010 by venagozar

We sometimes go through short periods when we feel distanced from the world and everything in it. Some people feel this distancing in their relationships. They feel as if they are separate form their family members and others around them.

Other people feel distant in their beliefs. They feel as if they have been abandoned or neglected. God is in the lives of others, but for some unknown reason has abandoned them. Other still feel distanced from the human race and all the earth. They feel as if they live in a universe of one which is themselves, and everyone else lives in a different universe.

All these feelings are common at different times in peoples lives. This distancing happens for different reasons, but generally it happens because we forget we should live our lives through our heart and not our mind. When this distancing lasts longer than a few days, something else is going on, and we need to get ourselves right again.

When we live our life through our mind, everything in our world is processed through our ego, and sent to our conscious self. What happens when we live our life this way is our life is processed and controlled through our ego. Our emotions become dulled and our sense of belonging dwindles away.

Our ego unfortunately is the Supreme Being of our mind. Nothing surpasses our ego, and our ego serves only one master, itself. When our ego is not satisfied or feels threatened, our ego starts generating feelings of distancing from those around us. Other people are not giving our ego what it wants, so it is separating us from those around us. This helps ego retain its feeling of self importance.

If we do not fix ourselves when feeling this way, this feeling continues and we feel more and more distant. For some people this distancing is perplexing, for others it is depressing, and for a few it leads to thoughts of suicide. No matter where it leads or how we feel, distancing is something that needs to be addressed and fixed so we can feel a part of the world around us as we should.

What needs to be done is we need to take charge, and change the way we interact with the world. Everyone knows a bubbly always happy person. They can step outside in a thunderstorm, get soaked, look at the sky and have a clap of thunder drown out themselves saying, “Isn’t it a wonderful day?”, and really mean it. Usually, we look and wonder what is wrong with them that they can find something magical on this kind of day.

What these people do that some of us have forgotten how to do is they are living their life through their heart, and not their mind. When we live our lives through our heart there is no disconnection from the world and those around us. Everything around us is magical, wonderful, and absolutely perfect. We are one with the world, and the world is one with us.

Living life through our heart makes us one with everything whereas living life through our mind creates feelings of being separate from everything around us. Living life through our heart melds us with the world around us. From the smallest insect to all that is, we are one with the whole.

It is easy to tell where we are living our life from once we see we can live our life through our mind, or through our heart. If from waking up in the morning to the time we go to bed all we see is misery, and all we feel is pain, sometimes both physical and emotional, we are living our life through our head. Somewhere in our past, our ego was threatened and it took measures to prop itself up to the status it thinks it deserves.

If we wake to a wonderful day, and the magic happens around us everywhere we look, and we go to bed thankful for the experience of another day of life, we are living our life totally through our heart. We can actually feel joy and happiness flowing through our heart, out into the world, and throughout our body.

Thinking everyone can live their life completely and unselfishly through their heart is a wonderful thought, and a fantasy at best. Believing that we can change the mixture of what body part we choose to live our life through is not only reasonable it is easy if you truly want to.

Let your heart guide your path throughout your day for one complete day, and let your mind run the next day. Compare each day with the day previous. Which day do you want to live over?

How To Create a Crappy Life

Posted on April 18, 2010 by venagozar

I have written some number of posts about integrity, honesty, and focus in hopes of helping someone live their best possible life. I have written why guidelines, goals, and direction are important if you wish to live the best life you can, but not all at once. My attention was drawn to a car in front of me in traffic today that pretty much visually explains why some people have so many problems in their life an consistency in life is so important.

On the back was a shiny new greek letter that looks like a fish which some Christians place as their symbol on the back of their cars. The license plate had one of those plastic covers that make the numbers hard to read from more than a few feet away. On the bumper was a sticker promoting America and her values. On the back window was a Green sticker. Hanging from the mirror was a crucifix, and a dream catcher. The driver who had just thrown some trash out the window onto the street was smoking a cigarette.

This person has no solid direction, focus, goals or values. The fish on their trunk announces their Christian values. The bumper sticker promoting America announces their supporting of American values, and the American way of life. The green sticker speaks for itself.

The plastic license plate cover tells everyone of the drivers disregard for the traffic laws and the personal safety of drivers around them. The cross hanging from the mirror is not appropriate hanging with a pagan dream catcher. The driver was throwing trash onto the street as they smoked giving a clear message of their disregard of their neighborhood, themselves, and the spirit of green.

I wonder how, when I see people with all these life conflicts can have anything even close to a happy and productive life. How can a Christian display their belief on the back of their car, yet intend to speed and deceive the police. How can one person promote America and her values, and trash the very neighborhood they want others to be proud of. How can one person have a fish and a cross, yet smoke cigarettes, and have a dreamcatcher hanging with their cross?

The choices we make in life are seemingly endless. Everything we do or having our life is a choice. What we believe is a choice, with those choices spanning the horizon of religion, sex, and politics. What we choose is our own personal choice and we have every right to choose what we wish to choose as long as no one else is harmed.

What happens to us when these choices conflict with each other? How do we be a practicing Christian who intends to break the law, defiles themselves and the land they live on? Promotes their countries values, and holds Christian and pagan ideas as being equal? I think what happens is someone is in a place where their life is spinning out of control.

This is living a life of constant contradictions. Be Christian, but be attracted and promote things not Christian. How does one love their country and neighborhood, yet take no responsibility for its upkeep? Promote law abiding values, yet intend to speed or drive recklessly. This is what they are showing the world on their car. Any guesses what the rest of their life is like?

Of course it is important to have strong ideals and beliefs. It is more important not to trip yourself up with conflicting beliefs that have you talking of one thing and doing another. No one can be happy while being tugged in two opposite directions. it is important to choose one or the other and follow only that path.

Consistency is one of the more important attributes you can add to your life. Whatever you choose, be consistent about it. Allowing inconsistencies to creep into your life, is allowing your life to be thrown about and shredded to pieces. Be consistent and be happy.

Affairs And Relationships Of Trust

Posted on December 6, 2009 by venagozar

With the human faults of another famous role model being dragged across every media outlet from ‘Breaking News’, to the least respected tabloid, it is once again time to look at the fantasy that some people choose to live in. We have another rich and talented person who suddenly has something between affairs and one night stands coming out of the woodwork on every turn of the calendar date.

Whether true or not is irrelevant as the damage is done. The irony being the perpetuator in this scenario is the one with the most to lose. It is as if a carefully crafted game was created for the sole purpose of toppling another ‘Golden Child’ from his throne. Topple he will, with gigantic monetary losses being among the least important long term loss he suffers

Without many exceptions any married person has had the prospect of illicit romance hover in the corners of their married life. I doubt anyone who is involved in a serious relationship is immune to the possibility that some day at some point, one will have to make a decision whether to cross that line or not.

Most people I want to think choose not to take that final step, or at least I hope most people choose not to. The reasons why not may be varied, but I think the most important reason is each of us looks at ourselves in the mirror each morning and we should like the person looking back at us.

Relationships are rarely the ideals we like to think they are. No one is out there waiting to spend their life filling our every whim and desire. Even if someone were to try they would fail, for as soon as we have everything, we want something more. Relationships are the ultimate learning and proving ground. Whether they last a month or a lifetime, they are an arena where our souls are bared, and our emotions are on the line. What happens next decides whether the relationship is a success or not.

Cheating in a relationship hurts the other person in the short term. It hurts the person doing the cheating forever. Never again will they be trusted by those they once cared for them with all their being. Nor will they be as trusted ever again by the next person willing to enter into a relationship with them. No one should be willing to trust their hard earned money to a bank that has shown to be irresponsible, and fewer still should be willing to enter into a relationship with someone who was unfaithful to another for selfish reasons.

Sometimes relationships break down to the point where they can not be fixed. Sometimes relationships that start out good fizzle away into nothingness. When that happens it is time to access the situation and decide whether it is time to call it quits. It is not the time to go out looking somewhere else for something that likely does not exist in the first place.

I don’t have the burden of being either rich or famous. I don’t have women all over the world plotting and scheming on how they will make me one of their conquests, garnering millions of dollars in the process, and perhaps thirty minutes of fame. While we all dream of a life of being rich and famous, when push comes to shove, being true to ourselves is a much more precious and satisfying choice.

As much as the world wants to pull down years of hero status and admiration for this individual, one lesson is again glaringly obvious. No matter who we think someone is, or what they have achieved in their life, they are first and foremost human. As we all know from our own individual life: To be human is to make mistakes. We try to make mistakes we can still look in the mirror at ourself afterwards and like who we see. We also need to be gentle with those who can not look in a mirror and see someone they approve of.

Who Do You Want To Be

Posted on October 24, 2009 by venagozar

I had a unique opportunity to make a number of visits to a hardware store over two days. In that time I was helped by a number of people working at the store and checked out by at least as many before my buying spree was complete. I was humbled by one of those workers in particular. I thought they reflected you and I and those around us.

Watching how the people working acted or reacted as they were helping me with the nuances and intricacies of items I knew little about is worth writing about. My first trip was for a vanity and sink top for a bathroom upgrade.

The first clerk I asked for help pointed me in the general direction of vanities and sink tops before disappearing. I would say helping another customer, but seeing there were only about five of us in the store I believe he went to a new hiding place.

I decided on what pieces I wanted and went to find a cart. A worker in the lighting section pointed me to a corner and told me carts were usually pulled in to that corner (pointing) from the parking lot. Arriving at the appointed corner, there were no carts, but someone was guarding the exit area cum cash register. They told me all the carts were out in the parking lot somewhere.

When I found a cart, loaded it, and went to an open register to check out, the woman who helped me asked the normal questions and seemed to care about my answers. When the transaction was complete she asked if I needed help loading my purchase. I said yes I would like some help getting them into my truck. She paged out an appropriate code and said if no one shows up, she will help me load up.

Our choice I made a joke to the woman about hearing the stampede of feet coming towards the exit to help when a man showed up and said he would be more than happy to help me load up. He pulled my cart out to my truck, helped me load up, and asked if I could manage unloading by myself. I told him thank you for the help, and yes, I could manage the unloading myself.

The next day there were a number of trips back and forth buying, exchanging, and returning. One clerk, on the second trip, looked as if her best friend had recently died while complaining about how long the day was. It was nine am and she had been working two hours. I saw her later in the day at a different register, with the same bored, forlorn look. I chose a different register to check out at.

On one return for correct size trip, the returns clerk told me that doors were the number one exchanged item, and the reasons why. She was upbeat and took me at my word when I told her nothing was used or damaged even though one box looked nothing like it did when it left the store.

I exited the returns section, went back in the store and picked up some more large items. The cashier was friendly as asked if I needed this or that that she knew would be needed for what I bought. She also asked if I needed help, and told me a coworker who was one of the best employees would probably show up to help me. I recognized the name from the night before, the same person who helped load up my truck last night. I agreed and mentioned how he helped me the previous evening. The clerk said yes, that would be him, the others usually hide when paged to help.

One person who really stood out was the first register clerk of the second morning. She was the only register clerk when I got in the line of five at her register. She was a young woman with a large flower in her hair above her right ear, her mouth in a smile, and pleasant manners when checking out the previous customers.

I mentioned how polite and awake she was when the most of the customers and workers alike looked to be half asleep. The young woman told me, “I work somewhere else too, and I worked hard and late last night. I didn’t get much sleep and I am very tired. When I woke up and started getting ready to come here, I had a choice of how I wanted to be today, and I chose to be happy.” I stood looking at her in awe as she checked me out with a smile. The amazing places we learn about life and how to live it!

Growing Up Is Hard To Do

Posted on October 20, 2009 by venagozar

It is hard growing up when there is no one in your life to help you grow up. There is a change happening so quietly you do not even notice it. When you are trying to grow up on your own, you notice something is not working the way you think it should but you do not know what is wrong or why.

What is wrong is a tough message to hear. It happens to us who had no close by adult role models who we want to be like. What is wrong is you are trying to be an adult using the same tools in the same way you did as a child.

If you read on that sentence will make sense, and you will know what you have to do if you want to be happy and successful as an adult. Until now it did not really matter who you played with. If you hung around with friends who were in trouble often, and you did not do the things they did, they got into trouble, and you did not. If you hung around with people who had no ambition, did as little as possible, and acted up, it did not matter.

choices Your life away from your home until now was always changing, but you came home to the routine of your life, whatever that may be. Now something is not working, and it does not make sense when you think about, because until now life was good, and it makes no sense all of a sudden.

When you start living on your own, there is no more routine or parents to go home to. What you do in or with your life is your choice, and other than your family, nobody cares whether you live your life well, or trash it completely.

Have you noticed the people you hang around with are getting expensive? They have no plans for their life, and they have little ambition while you want to have a better life than you have up to this point. Having a better life never has entered your friends thoughts. They think life is good just the way it is.

I know you do not think your friends are costing you much, but think about it. How many problems have you had over the last months while with your friends? How many times do you find yourself paying for something for them. I know you don’t think it is much, maybe a coke now and then, but if you watch closely you will see it is a lot more. Also what about the problems in your life that keep popping up? That stupid stuff that should not have happened but it does? Have you noticed your friends are always around when problems happen?

I am sure you have not really noticed, but other people they hang with are worse than they are. The people they hang with that you are starting to know have some pretty bad habits, to doing some things that will get them sent to prison some day, if they have not been in jail or something like it already.

You have to decide where you want your life to go, even if you do not know how to get there. You can no longer hang around with people who’s lives are going nowhere and expect your life to be different. The plain simple boring truth is: “You are who your friends are”, and there is no way around it. If you hang with people who’s lives are going nowhere fast, your life is not changing either except you are getting older. Notice how the people you admire are moving out of your life.

You are who your friends are because you start thinking more like them ever day. You do not notice that you are slipping when you want to move ahead. It is easier and less scary to do what you have been doing and not admit it is not working, and it is your doing. But that is exactly what you need to do. Take responsibility for your life, and the direction it is going. No one else runs your life any longer.

If you want to go nowhere in life, then think I do not know what I am talking about. It is a lot easier than the other choice. The better choice is start making choices that move your life forward. That is a painful choice because you don’t know how. You do not need to know what or how, all you need to do is decide not to. Decide not to hang with friends who have no interest in a better life. Decide not to be with people who want to be children in adult bodies. Make the right choice, and better thing will come your way.

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