Facebook And Not Me

Sometimes I feel like the last person in the world who is not on some social networking site. Every now and then I get offers or invitations to join a social networking site. I think about it, kick it around in my head for a few days and decide I really do not care to share my whole life with the world.

I now remember that is not completely true. I did open and account on one site. They did not seem to be overly concerned with who I really was, so I made up some information for the site and created an account.

I kept it active for about six weeks, and then let it die a slow lingering death due to inactivity. I am sure by now it has passed into the great data collection point in the sky and made it into a non important database.

It is not that my life is anything more special than anyone else’s life, or I am a fugitive from justice trying to evade capture and incarceration. I prefer to have my life be my own as much as possible.

Sharing information or pictures about what I am doing or have been doing is a fun idea, but I find I can do it quite well using email, or a phone call. Both of them to me are a little more personable, than posting on a site and checking back to see who if anyone has visited and looked at what I put up there.

This week, the subject came up again, I had an invite from a long time friend to join him on facebook. This time I actually thought about it, and did a little checking on the net to see what I could find. I had heard all these wonderful stories about meeting old friends, catching up with schoolmates, etc.

I went to facebook’s site to check it out, that seemed the most logical. At first glance it looks like an official government site, conservative and blue. I was surprised that  there were no sample accounts to see – unless I signed up for an account. If you are like most people, that did not slow you down. For me it sent up red flags of caution and fireworks of concern.

I decided to check out some facebook pages, and could not look at any. To even have the opportunity to look at a facebook page, I have to have a facebook account. Hmmm. I found that interesting. I did find these bits of information clicking on the policy link at the bottom of the web page:

  • Consent to Collection and Processing in the United States. By using Facebook, you consent to having your personal data transferred to and processed in the United States.

and under statement of rights page, number 13. Amendments

  • “We can make changes for legal or administrative reasons upon notice without opportunity to comment.”

You also may want to read the second to last paragraph of the about page. The paragraph starts with:

  • “Examples of the types of information”

Still on the fence about whether to join or not, I thought about facebook videos. It seemed logical that someone made a video of, on, or about facebook. I googled facebook, clicked on videos, and found the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

It was not quite the pot of gold I expected though. Here are a few youtube links I watched. I have no idea whether they are accurate or not, nor do I know anything about them other than I watched them.

  1. What is facebook
  2. Facebook pwnd
  3. Facebook: What they really have one you

Facebook and other social networking sites may be wonderful, and I may be too cautious and overly concerned with my private information. It is one thing to know there is a lot of publicly available information on anyone. It is quite another to put so much information in one place.

In facebook’s, and other social networking sites defense, I imagine they are trying to provide a service, and make a few dollars along the way. Who can fault that? The policies they have in place are the most responsible policies reasonably possible, I am guessing.

You, of course will have to decide for yourself, as always, what is right for you and your use. My opinion on this matter is obvious, I choose no thankyou.

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Thankful On Turkey Day In 09

It is almost the day of thanks in America. Thanksgiving is one of many days when I really look for those things I am thankful for that I may not think about often. It is good to be thankful for health, wealth or sustenance and family though there is so much more to life than that.

In my life, I have a lot of coincidences. How these coincidences come about is another matter, and not my intent here. A most recent example is a book I was looking for that I purchased and read a few years ago. At the time the subject matter was a curiosity for me. Now a few years later life has worked itself around to where the book is worth a re-read for me. I could not find it. I checked my bookshelves, I checked the books that I had placed in a box, put away for some future time and date. The book was nowhere to be found.

I decided I had lent out the book, or it grew feet and walked out the door. I thought I would try the library for a copy when I found time. I came home from work one day last week and there was the book next to my computer desk chair. All I can think of is my two cats for whatever reason were playing or searching for something in the area and pushed it out from its hiding place while on their quest. I am grateful for coincidences.

I mentioned in a previous post(s), but I spent some time in the military over seas. One Holiday in particular stands out in my memory. It was cool damp winter night and I was in a gate shack, the lone one man team on a deserted stretch of flight line. Around the middle of my duty the food panel van arrives. I thought a nice hot turkey dinner was on its way. I could not quite identify what it was I ate, but it was not hot, barely warm, and tasted pretty bland. I was feeling pretty sorry for myself until that spring when I overheard some visiting Army guy talk about his cold canned rations that comprised his Easter dinner a week earlier while he sat in a wet hole that passed for a bunker. Listening to him improved whatever it was I ate that holiday night immensely. I am thankful for having the opportunity for hot meals whenever I am hungry.

When I left the military in the early nineties, I was viewed by some as little better than a pan handler who saw the light and became a responsible citizen.

These days many people taking time from their lives to thank returning soldiers for their sacrifices. I am thankful that todays soldiers are recognized for the sacrifices they make and have made so our life can continues in whatever manner we deem right for us. I am thankful for the reception veterans receive these days. I am thankful for their sacrifices too. Unless you have served and gone over seas, it is hard to understand the price our folks in the service pay why we go on with our lives.

maimeI am thankful for those people who have lives filled with struggle and tragedy. They not only show me how to thrive and survive my own struggles, but also show me no matter how bad things are life could always be worse. Some people live their lives with emotional, physical, and other forms of debilitating problems and they learn how to succeed in spite of their handicaps. I am thankful for the depth and quality of their spirits to never give up.

Last, but not least, I am grateful for emergency services. The policemen, firemen, emergency room people, and utility workers. They venture where few mere mortals want to go. If ever I need their help, I am thankful in advance that they will do everything in their control to help me, not knowing anything about me, and not caring because I am a fellow human being. If ever I could feel empathy and passion as they do.

One last thought, if it were not for all the people who donate their time and energy, I would be writing this in a paper journal. I am thankful they have their passion. I am thankful you took the time to read this.

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Walking For Entertainment When Traveling

I am in Austin this week on a work related trip. A work related trip means a budget trip. There is not a lot of money budgeted for entertainment. For low budget entertainment I like to get out and about, relaxing in my walking shoes.

For me being out of town without a lot of cash is easy. I like to walk. If given the choice when out of town if something is in walking distance I walk there instead of drive.

Walking gets me out of my hotel room for a longer period than driving somewhere close will. A few minute drive can become a thirty minute walk. Two thirty minute walks to and from where I am going to have my dinner means an hour or more of my evening is taken up in an enjoyable way.

What is a walk like in a strange place? I have taken more than a few, so I will share a few stories. Walking in some places was not the best decision I could have made. Walking in other places has been a unique experience. Generally an hours walk around the area I am staying is fun and relaxing.

Stress ReliefI once wandered lost in the streets of an American  ghetto. I was followed for about twenty-five minutes by three young men, who could not quite bring themselves to bother me, but followed me in case they had the opportunity. I was lost and it was not fun. In Israel I walked as a tourist in places where no tourist should have been walking. People were being kidnapped, and buses were blowing up. Most people with me thought it was too risky to be out and about and they stayed in their rooms, very bored. In one small town where I stopped for a night, I watched porch lights come onm heralding the direction of my walk. Porch lights lit my way for almost a mile before I returned to where I started. I was impressed with the speed of the telephone and the power of a stranger in a strange town.

Some trips like this one to Austin are very good. Today I went on an hour stroll along the infamous Austin river walk near the South Congress Bridge. I watched people jog and walk by. People cruising along on bicycles from one place to another. People walking in groups, and people walking with their dogs.

I had a interesting chat with a homeless man who had the motor portion of a ceiling fan. He was trying to turn it into a generator for his personal use. While he tinkered with the motor pondering possibilities, he shared some of his life with me. I never would have had that chat from my car or room.

I walked my way back to the South Congress Bridge, and asked around for a salad bar within walking distance. There happened to be a salad bar of sorts about eight blocks up the street. I walked hearing bits of conversations in dialects I never heard before. Possible they are tourists like myself, or perhaps business people working hard on closing the deal.

During my walk back, homeless people were staking out their sleeping quarters for the evening. The incongruity of skyscrapers worth untold millions with homeless men and perhaps women sleeping in their daytime shadow was a study of contrasts.

I arrived back on the South Congress Bridge in time to observe the nightly flight of approximately 750,000 bats starting their nightly feed. While waiting for the flight, I chatted with people standing next to me about traveling, they gave me their impressions of their Jerusalem visits. What a small world, a stranger on a bridge having been to Jerusalem too.

Over all, getting out walking, listening, and talking to complete strangers is a thrifty and enjoyable way to pass part of an evening. Walking in some neighborhoods is indeed risk taking at its best. For most walks however, being out and about on foot is enjoyable, and a stress reliever. Use common sense, leave your valuables and extra money in your room, and get out and see what the locals take for granted.

If you are fortunate, you will get the kind of comment I did last night when I wandered too far from the beaten path. A car slowed, a window came down, and a womans voice said, “You lost”, and she laughed. I turned back the way I came knowing the next vehicle to stop may not be so friendly. If you are not that lucky, you may get a little nervous. Use your head and don’t stray any farther away than you have already. Head back to where you started and walk in a different direction.

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Your Life Is Happy If It Is You

When I was a toddler just out of diapers we lived in the country. There is always a lot to explore for a small child, as everything is new and exciting. There was the foot wide ditch the kitchen sink emptied into, there were the bugs that lived under pieces of board left on the ground, there were ant hills, and there spiders and other interesting bugs. There was also the garbage pile, which I am sure my parents would have rather I did not discover.

Being just out of diapers with so much to explore and do, body functions would tend to get away from me. Children that young do not know the concept of lying but I was on my way to learning in my own way. I would be so busy exploring or playing the fact I had to take a crap right now would be in the back of my mind as I danced around trying to not think about it. Suddenly it would be too late, and it was coming out and I was not on the toilet.

As an enterprising little boy who was starting to learn the art of lying, I started blaming my accidents on my dog. I would say when my Mom was frustrated, “I didn’t do it, Rebel [my dog] did.” Perfect logic for a toddler to have something in his pants that his best friend, his dog Rebel put in his underwear while he was not paying attention.

One day when my Dad was watching me, it happened again. As people we use whatever works, and blaming my dog for my accidents was working fine, so I used it on my Dad. My dad listened to my excuse, cleaned me up, and put clean clothes on me. Then he spanked me. As I cried my father said, “You didn’t get the spanking, Rebel did.”

be yourselfI learned a lesson that day, and the days of my dog Rebel messing my underwear came to an end. What continued was the idea of being someone else. When I was old enough to leave the yard and meet other kids for a baseball game, or football we did what I imagine most kids did and maybe still do. We would pick who we were going to be for the game.

As I became an adult, being someone else faded. Occasionally I would wish I were someone else, but never actually named someone I wanted to be. Instead, I would think if I were Muhammed Ali, what would I do or say right now. If I were Chuck Yeager, what would I do? It was a way of pretending to be someone else. Instead of being that person for a time, I would do what I thought they might do.

While trying to be like my heroes would in this situation helped, when I was a child actually pretending to be that person it was easier. The problem with trying to be someone is it only works in the short term. It is easy to act like your hero for a few minutes to a few hours, but any longer and the cracks start to appear. After you have gone through all the actions you know they do, you start becoming yourself again.

Eventually I changed or become eccentric, and started being exactly who I thought I was instead of someone else. People would either like me, or they would not. At any rate, I was tired of acting. Acting is a hard job, and even harder when you act every waking minute.

What I found was life was more genuine, and real. Some people did not care for the change in me, others of course loved it. I found I loved the change in me, because I did not have to think about who I was supposed to be, I could just be me. I took the blame for me, and I took the credit for me. Being me was a nice change in my life.

Pretending to be someone else is fun for an hour or two. It helps you experience things you may not have the courage to try on your own. Pretending to be someone else for so long, people around you think your acting is the real you, is possibly flattering to that person, if you do it well, but terribly hard on you.

When you find yourself in a tough spot, think about what your hero would do, and imitate them, but do not try to be them. Make what you think they would do a part of your character so it becomes a part of you. Think of it as a life building exercise. For your normal day in life, practice being you. It works much better for you and others in your life.

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Eating with Celiacs, For The Gluten Intolerant

It has been four months now since I have been eating a Celiac or wheat gluten free diet. If you are not sure what that means, my understanding is Celiac is intolerance for wheat type gluten. This type of gluten is found in Wheat, Barley, and Rye for starters and perhaps a few lesser known grains too. Anything with malt or malt extract is code for gluten. Modified something you do not understand exactly what it is, is a phrase to be wary of. In my earlier Celiac post, I went over some of the symptoms that have been experienced both by myself and others.

It seems a Celiac diet is generally misunderstood, I read and have been told following a gluten free diet is a poor lifestyle choice which is simply not true. Lots of people around the world live quite happily on a gluten free diet. I suggest a lot of thought on going on a Celiac diet just for fun. It is a very restrictive diet if you are not adventurous. Eliminating gluten from your diet is no small undertaking.

After eliminating all the common places gluten sources exist in the average diet, there are other places gluten lurks. It is important to read each and every food label every time you shop because gluten lurks in almost every food you can imagine, from ice cream, to protein powders, some peanut butter, vitamins, and some medicines. What may be free of gluten this time, may have gluten in it the next time because the manufacturing of the product changed.

cel 2A Celiac diet properly undertaken is very healthy and nutritious. A Celiac diet done wrong can also turn into a monster. If you are not open to trying new foods, food combinations, and tastes, the Celiac diet is very expensive and fairly bland. Trying to eat the same type of foods you always ate such as different forms of breads and pasta’s will send the cost of eating into the upper limits. If a loaf of bread used to cost you $2.50, you can now plan on paying two to three times or more for bread that never quite matches your memories.

If you enjoy snacking on an occasional pretzel, cookie, or doughnut, get ready to pay much more for the pleasure. If you like pancakes or waffles guess what? The price of pancake mix and waffles goes up too. If you always wanted to expand what you eat, and you can get excited about new vegetables, and fruits, you will find life pretty exciting. You can practically start at one side of your favorite produce section and eat your way around to the other side.

If you are in the middle in your eating needs, you will find your food bill has gone up, and you may find yourself eating more of the types of foods that you previously ate less of. Going to a buffet for example where everyone can find something they want to eat, your choices once you leave the salad area becomes limited. Most thick soups are out, so is most chili, cheese, croutons, crackers, and everyone’s favorite – most of the desert section. You are left with vegetables and some of the meats. You can eat those meats which are not breaded, barbequed, or marinated with a soy based sauce, because they are likely to contain gluten.

On the bright side, I have noticed the taste of wheat in some food is obvious. The first bite often tells me if there is wheat hiding in the food somewhere. If I do not notice which has happened a few times, upset stomach of some form is not far away. Talk about negative reinforcement, it only needs to happen a few times before the awareness level and attention to what I am eating went way up.

Contrary to some of what I have read, being gluten free is not the end of the world. With some willingness to say goodbye to what your diet used to be and hello to the world of vegetables and fruits you never tasted before, a Celiac diet is healthy and can be quite reasonable both in taste and expense.

If you do have a gluten allergy, you will know generally within a few weeks because you should feel better, and not just different. In my case, it was only a few days before I started feeling a difference, and a few weeks before feeling healthier

An acquaintance mentioned many people have an allergy to many foods, but our bodies for the most part are able to handle the reaction without our even noticing. Again though that is conjecture and opinion, so take it with a grain of e-salt.

If you are serious about a celiac diet, or have health concerns, you need opinion and advice from a more informed source than myself. While I have done my reading and research, I am by no more than a beginning novice on Celiacs, and much of what I say may not be correct or correct for you. I have some small gluten tolerance, as some people do, so my thoughts and opinions may not be correct for you.

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Happiness is knowing why you occasionally feel ill

It is hard to be happy when you do not feel well. I have had this roller coaster ride of health issues probably since I was a baby. I was a colicky baby. I suffered terrible bouts with the flu starting around the age of nine.

I had other ailments and illnesses that it seemed only I would catch. In California I had what an Aunt called “Cowboy Eye” where the inside corner of my eye (both at times) would be bloodshot red and the outside half was not. I would have the flu when it was not even flu season. Fresh tomatoes would make the right side of my upper lip swell up, but only occasionally. On top of the problems I had listed above, I became lactose intolerant (milk allergy), and I have had about a decade worth of on and off problems eating pork, As the years rolled by the only consistency was declining dental health no matter what steps I took or advances in technology. Lately I thought I was enjoying full body arthritis. I found out what is wrong with my body, and I want to write about it so you can be aware if you see it in yourself or those around you.

Recently, it came to my attention that gluten (wheat) allergy may run in my family. Formally known as Gluten intolerance, or Celiac Disease, is very common, some estimates run as high as 1 person out of every 133 people have gluten intolerance, making celiac disease more common than the common cold.

Here are some of the symptoms of Celiac Disease I discovered that may come and go without any apparent rhyme or reason.

• Weight loss or weight gain
• bloating, pain, gas, constipation, diarrhea
• Aching joints
• Depression
• various skin conditions
• Head aches
• iron-deficiency
• Exhaustion
• sudden mood changes
• irregular menstrual cycle
• Cramps, tingling and numbness
• Crohn’s disease
• Diverticulitis
• Decline in dental health

Celiac disease is an auto immune disease as I understand it, and as such it shares symptoms with many other health issues or problems. What sealed it for me, is one of the leading writers on the disease wrote that 100% of people who have a certain red rash that itches like there is no tomorrow no matter what you do have celiac disease.

There is a good story in this. It shows how hard it is to pin down some health problems. When my children were young, they became acquainted with Poison Ivy. By default I had it on both of my shins after a few weeks of taking care of their Poison Ivy. It seemed to have never have gone away, but would resurface, drive me crazy, and recede over the years. I am one of the only people in the world who has Poison Ivy that has never gone away completely.

It is hard to be happy when you are ill and you do not know why. If you have health problems that come and go and do not seem to follow any pattern, don’t let your doctor blow it off like mine did over the years. Insist that a cause be found, because indeed there is a cause, and it can be identified. Your doctor is your medical expert, but he or she does not know it all, all the time.

My point to all this is your long term happiness and health may be at stake. It is hard to enjoy long term happiness when you become ill or not feel well for so many different reasons you lose count, and no one else is feeling poorly around you.

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