Make Your Mark – 1800s version

Being lucky enough to go to the movies as a kid meant going to see a Western. Westerns always took place sometime in the 1800′s. The 1800s were recent enough to be remembered in stories passed down by family members, and Westerns were filled with action and suspense.

Old Westerns always had characters that were easily defined. Good Guys wore white hats, and the Bad Guys always wore dark hats. It made it easy to know immediately who were the good guys and who were the bad guys.

One unique part in Westerns that stuck with me all these years was a ritual called, “Make your Mark”. The Good Guys whether signing on for a cattle drive, a posse, or taking on some other job, were always asked to Make their Mark on a sheet of paper.

Sometimes, after they made their mark with a simple X, and someone wrote in their name next to their X. Other times, the Good Guy wrote out his name in some flowery script. However they made their mark, it was clear that they were pledging to something, and they would see it through to the end or die in the process.

In a few Westerns a different type of Mark was made. A young Cowboy would be told to go out and Make his Mark. This was confusing to me, because generally cowboys made their Marks on paper. As a kid I did not understand how a Cowboy could Make his Mark if he did not sign anything.

In these odd Westerns where a young Cowboy went out and made his mark without writing his name on anything, there was more to the story line. Generally he would meet some Cowgirl and they would get mushy and then have a falling out. The Cowboy would leave angry, pack up some things, ride into the arid lands, do battle with bad guys, and finally return to fall madly in love with the Gal he left behind. I always missed where or how he Made his Mark though. How or where did he Make his Mark, as he never signed anything?

Later, I started to understand the idea of Cowboy’s Making his Mark was an abstract concept. The Cowboy had to get out there, where ever there was, and do something important. The mark the Cowboy made were his larger than life accomplishments. Bigger than driving cattle to market – which would have been his job. Big accomplishments were saving a Town, protecting Ranchers from rustlers, or rescuing the Cowgirl from bad guys.

I was confused how I was supposed to, ‘Get out there and make my mark’. Though no one ever said anything like it, it seemed to be an expectation as I grew up. There were no rustlers, no one was in distress, or needed saving, and there was a lake or stream every few miles so water was never an issue. I never met a young woman I had a serious argument with. What exactly was I expected to do to, Make My Mark?

Eventually I started to have an inkling of what, ‘Making your Mark’ was all about. For us mere mortals, ‘Making Your Mark’ is a sequence of events happening over a lifetime. Making Your Mark is not completing a single task and riding off into the sunset, or marrying the Cowgirl who suddenly has become so desirable.

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The Truth Of You

I wrote this tonight as a response to a blog comment I left and the Author replied back. I thought there may be something here for you?

Thank you for the opportunity to follow through, I hope I do not fall short.
Think of a real Bad Guy in, or better yet watch the movie, “3:10 to Yuma”. The Bad Guy knows what he is and makes no apologies for himself or his actions. He knows his life purpose, and he is comfortable with himself. He is the best Bad Guy possible, as he works at it with his all.

The Good Guy is your current persona perhaps? He is not sure what he is, and does recognize his inherent goodness. He is wishy washy, and not comfortable within himself, or perhaps does not know how to define himself. His self created life problems finally push him over the edge, and he has to become what he was alway meant to be.

Unfortunately in the Yuma movie, his end came too soon, but before he dies, he learns his life truths, and the real Good Guy shines through so strongly even the Bad Guy is illuminated and changed in his presence.

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I will give you a small helping hand but it is really up to you to follow through. During your quiet time determine what you know about yourself and your world, not to be confused with what your authors, myself, or anyone else says or writes, only what you know to be true for you.

…this is not an earth moving experience…let it be something as simple as:

1. I am here in this life to____. Make a few simple statement that defines you.

2. I have important things to do with my life such as _____.

3. Over the next (time period, at least a month to notice a difference) I will _____

Get some social goodness in your life.

4. I have brought these gifts ______ (list a few of your unique gifts) with me to help others. I will help others by _____ (doing what?)

That is more than enough to get you on your way. Actually it is too much. After my first number one stop and do not define any more about yourself until some later point.

The most important idea you should take away from this – is identifying what your reason for living is, and how you can best share your unique gifts with others.

It is possible you are doing exactly what you should be doing, and neither you, I, or anyone else is aware of it? What a wonderful gift you can bring to the world by sharing yourself in this way!

Whatever you find to be true, you need to define those gifts that are you. Fine tune them and let the rest of us experience them in a positive manner.

Self Truths are not a massive sun rising out of an abyss, Self Truths are more like a foggy morning turning into warm autumn sunshine by afternoon.

Take little steps, but keep stepping.

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