How to Become the Best

During my work work day, I have the privilege of observing several workers who are here in the United States on temporary assignment. I do not work directly with them, although I do see them frequently throughout the day. I think it is a privilege to watch these Japanese workers accomplishing various tasks, because of the their approach to everything they do while at work.

In brief, they are respectful and meticulous in each and every aspect whatever they happen to be doing at the moment. Japanese workers are respectful of everything pertaining to their work environment.

The Japanese workers pick up after themselves. They take the extra step of cleaning up after someone before them if they occupy the same work area. They are publicly polite to the point of being over polite. They are obviously grateful when the same level of politeness is returned to them. I am guessing return politeness does not happen often.

If the number of Japanese workers I come in contact with in my daily activities, over thirty are all outwardly respectful and polite, it is obvious to me this is a learned behavior. Whether they are taught this type of behavior as children, or see it and have it reinforced in the work environment, it is a learned behavior.

I read a short blip on the famous investor Mr. Warren Buffett. The paragraph mentioned that Mr. Buffett bought his first share of stock at age eleven, and his first company at age fifteen. Whether those dates and my memory are correct or not is not as important as the fact it happened early in the life of Mr. Buffett.

Mr. Michael Jordan, President Obama, Mr. Buffett, and one of my personal hero’s, Mr. Mohammed Ali, also bring special skills to the table at which they reign. None of them however achieved what they achieved in their life through blind luck.

There is a (presumably) Eastern saying, that when the Student is ready, the Teacher arrives. I like this saying. It reflects the same type of thinking as King Solomon when he penned the thought that there is nothing new on the earth, and everything has been done before.

King Solomon had a lot of good insight on how the world works. Certain behaviors are intrinsic to each of us. We have areas where we excel, areas in which we aspire to, and areas where we are not so good at. For every Super Human, average people like myself, and you too, there are teachers to help us find our way if we wish to improve.

The idea of sitting under a shady tree relaxing and having a Teacher show up telling us they are here to teach us how to excel in eaching our goals is a wild fantasy at best. Not that there are not any Teachers out there to show us what we want to know, only that we have to take the initiative ourselves to be taught.

How do we get in touch with these great teachers, and how do we get them to teach us? Bribery sometimes works, but for most of us, the cost of hiring a true expert to guide us is out of our financial reach, not to mention our current needs. Fortunately there are other resources, and most of them are free.

The simplest is simply to watch someone who does a task well which we want to learn. If you want to be a great table waiter, watch Waiters where you are currently working. Watch how they talk to and treat their customers. Watch how they subtly take charge and direct the experience of dining.

If you wish to become a financial wizard, odds are a good number of people you know good financial advice to share with you. Even if you do not ask them, how they manage their own finances is a form of teaching you can learn from. If they may not know how to manage finances well, they sure can show you how not to do it. This is as valuable as any free lesson can be.

If you aspire to be or do something great, look around you. There are people who do whatever you want to become or do better than you do. Watch them and act like they do. Eventually with enough practice, you will know why they are doing what they do, and why they do it that way. Once you have learned all you can from them, look for other teachers, and learn from them. Keep the process going, and before you know, people will be looking to you as an expert, and asking you for advice or help.

Mr. Jordan, Mr. Buffett, President Obama, and Mr. Ali, all have a tremendous amount of natural ability to have achieved what they have achieved. They also had years of watching, studying, and learning how to take what they have and make it better. They also had more than a few great teachers who showed them a better way to accomplish their goals. Neither Mr. Jordan, Mr. Buffett, President Obama, or Mr. Ali would have accomplished what they did unless they received help in achieving their life goals.

It is the perfect time to start creating your life dream. If thousands, if not millions before you achieved their dreams, you can too. All you need to do is watch and learn, and you are on your way to greatness!

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Stop or change, what do you do?

I was in conversation recently when something was said I thought was a rhetorical question. The gist of the statement was: someone had stopped doing the things they used to do a few years back, their life should be changing. The speaker felt that because an individual stopped doing certain things, their life should change for the better, and that does not seem to be happening in this instance.

I thought this was a rhetorical statement, not really looking for an answer. I took it as asking a question out loud and already knowing the answer. Later in the afternoon, I thought maybe it is a real question that begs a real answer?

For an answer, my preferred response would have been something other than silence. Sometimes people know the correct answer but do not want to voice it. Other times people are completely baffled trying to determine a correct answer. When life is not going the way we want it to, we make changes to what we are doing. Changing what we are doing means eventually we will hopefully start enjoying different results.

There is a flaw in thinking if we change something, or change how we do it, our life will change accordingly and for the better. Consider being on an almost diet. Not really going on a diet, only changing the order of food and times of day we eat. We expect different results because we changed what we are doing. We can not expect different results as nothing has changed as far as our daily calorie intake goes. The only change was when we eat what.

Along a different path, stopping something, and expecting our life to change is just as futile. Deciding to stop is different than choosing not to do something. There is a small difference, but it has a tremendous impact in our life. From a decision to stop, no real change is taking place. The action has been placed in a state of hold for the time being.

A better alternitive to stopping is changing and choosing not to. Choosing not to is taking an action different than stopping. It may seem the difference is subtle and I am wasting your time, but that is not true.

The classic motivational books, Think and Grow Rich, The Power Of Positive Thinking, and The Secret along with many other sources all contain the same basic message. Some people read just one book and really comprehend what they have read, and go on to become wildly successful. Other people may buy two, three, ten  books, and do nothing other than become an expert on the book’s contents.

We live in a world of excess. There is enough money, fame, partner’s, whatever it is we want in our life, so we should never have to do without. Yet many of us do without because instead of changing whatever is holding us back, we believe stopping something is good enough rather than changing as we need to.

The next time you are deep in reflection of what is not right in your life, remember this post and the fine difference between stopping and changing. If you have only stopped doing something in hopes of change entering your life you will be waiting a long time for what you want to happen in your life.

To enjoy all those things in your life that you are hoping for, you have to change what you are doing. Change means taking an active role in the process. It may not be easy to determine what changes will unblock your path to success, but they are there. It takes a little work, time, and courage to impliment change rather than stopping. You can improve your life if you really want to with a little change in the right direction.

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Childhood dreams and goals may start your new life

It sure would be wonderful if you could spend every day doing whatever you really want and really enjoy? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to wake up each day and do something that makes you truly happy? How would you feel knowing that a life such as this is possible for you?
While it sounds like a sales pitch, to me at least, it is true that some people who do not have as much going for them as you or I do, wake up and really enjoy each and every day. What makes it even more impressive is they are nicely rewarded for doing what they love.

What separates you from them? Not much really, life balance and lifestyle, and childhood goals. However if you choose to follow your current career path there is nothing keeping you from success. Of course individual success depends on how you choose to judge success.

Ingrained success criteria is a big limiter in our quest of finding perfect life we wish we had. We want our life to be satisfying and full, although our options seem to be slim indeed. This creates conflict between our wants and our wants. We want to be able to do what we enjoy doing. We also want to become wealthy while we are at it.

What would happen if the success criteria were redefined? What if you could do whatever you always wanted to do, whether that is tending cattle on an open range, or owning your own candy store that specializes in fruit shaped ice cream? What would your criteria for success be then?

It is in the little things in life we get mired up in. As children when we are asked what we want to be when we grow up, we learn quickly what we declare is not usually the response the asker is looking for. We allow ourselves be talked into a group think measure of success, instead of allowing ourself to pursue our real dreams, and define success in ways that are meaningful to us.

We start modifying our answers when asked what we want to be. Instead of wanting to be a clown, or the world’s best cat herder, we now utter we want to be a banker, lawyer, or perhaps doctor. We enjoy those temporary feelings of being approved of by adults. We start forgetting other personal, conceptions of what we really want to do with our life.

This is a multi generational problem. It was an show stopper for our parents who mainly settled for mediocre adult lives, for us as kids, and now as adults. Unless the buck stops with us, lost childhood aspirations will be a part of your children’s life too. Most of us had our childhood goals trampled, and we have almost forgotten them. Children are quick to observe and mimic whatever response really brings approval from you. Are you now willing to continue the cycle of trampling the futures of those who follow by stifling their real life goals?

It is not too late for any of us to start working toward our forgotten goals, to know the intrinsic happiness we never found. Intrinsic happiness is happiness that flows outward from within, not forced emotions of others which let us feel good for a few moments only. There are very few success stories that do not have bold and profound feelings of doing what really makes us happy. Make time to remember the goals you used to have. Start looking for ways to bring those long suppressed goals into your life. Use idle time to nurture your newly rediscovered childhood life goals.

Give them water, sunlight, and a proper venue to grow and flourish. Once you begin to live your real life goals, adapt them into your life. While riches and immense wealth may never happen, you will discover some things are not as important any longer as they once were, as you have found something more rewarding….

Other posts of possible interest:

Failure is a good option

Take charge of your life

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