More Time For Your Life

I used to be very frustrated when I took a college class with a friend. It was not the class, although it was not the most enjoyable class, it was the expectations of the class. We were expected to write a number of short papers, and one longer page which would be our final for the class.

Each week we would go to class, and learn about a different way of presenting information on paper. One week it would be from an observational view, the next week, a third person view, and so on. Thrown in for good measure was proper paragraph structure and proper placement of the paragraphs main sentence.

The class, although it had its boring moments, was a good experience from a beginning level on how to put together a paper correctly. If I could remember most of what I learned my writing would be cleaner and more effective.

What I found frustrating in the class was the friend with whom I was taking the class with. I took my homework very seriously. I would start the night after class, and add, change and polish my weekly paper almost every day until we met the next week and turned them in.

My friend on the other hand generally waited until a few hours before the next class, sat down, typed out their paper, and was done in less than two hours. The disparity in effort was troubling to me. I would spend six, eight, or more hours, and they would spend at the most two hours. When our papers were handed back, our grades would be equal.

There was some difference in our writing abilities, but there was also something else going on that I had yet to discover. I was yet to discover that when it came to managing my time effectively, I was not very good at it.

You see, I thought when you had free time it meant there was time to do things that needed to be done no matter how far into the future, work on my paper for example. It seemed perfectly logical to me, spend some time on homework each day, and it is all done when it needs to be. I thought I was making effective use of my time.

What my friend understood that I did not, was it was not the amount of time spent on something, it was doing something when it needed to be done was more important than doing it over time.

Unlike my friend I was not a stellar student in school. Once I started college, I decided I was going to keep up on my home work and not wait until the last minute to do it. That way I always had time to go over and fine tune my papers before I turned them in.

My friend on the other hand understood that in many cases, once a certain level of proficiency is gained, fine tuning becomes re-writing, and re-writing again; essentially writing the same material out four or five different ways before turning it in.

I eventually learned about time management and I understood that in some ways and areas I was creating busy work, and not value added work, my class writing being an example.

There are multiple ways of looking proper time management but they all can be distilled into to a few major points:

1. Everything that needs to be done carries a level of importance.

2. Not everything needs to be done at once.

3. Completing tasks ahead of schedule, is not always the best use of time.

4. Working on and finishing tasks when they are needed is much more effective than doing them over time.

The number 4 is the most important idea to take from the points above. Everything we need to get done in our lives can fit into four or even three levels of importance.

The idea of time management is two fold. Proper time management gives you extra time  to do whatever you want to do. Effective time management gives you a tool to list in importance all tasks needing attention, allowing you to work on and complete them in level of importance and time.

The time we have in our life is finite, even though it may not always seem like it. Working and reworking on a task that is not needed until some point in the future is less important than a task that needs to be completed by tomorrow.

Mark up your tasks in levels of importance with ones given to tasks that are a low priority, and a four given to those very important items that must be done, and done today or tomorrow at the latest.

Only work on those tasks that are level three or higher on your scale of importance. Tasks that you rate as level one or level two can wait until they become important enough to be raised to a level three or higher task.

Now you know how to better manage your time, which relates into better managing of your life. Why spend time today doing something that is not needed until next week? You may never see next week. Put off those future tasks, and do what needs to be done today.

If after going through your list of tasks and you find none that need doing today, you have a whole day to spend on something more important. More important may be curled up with a book, spending time with someone, or going outside for a walk around your neighborhood, or a local park.

Whatever something more important turns out to be, it won’t be wasting time on tasks that really are not that important, or doing busy work just to be busy.

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Follow Through Goal Setting

I was pulling into a parking place at a fast food place for a cup of coffee when I observed three young boys ride up on their bicycles. They only had one bicycle lock, and there was no convenient bike rack to place their bicycles in. I watched as one boy stood by the bicycles, and the other two walked around the front of the building looking for a secure place to lock their bicycles to. The two boys walked back to the boy guarding the bicycles and they had a short discussion of how and where they were going to lock up their three bicycles with one lock as I opened the door and walked inside.

I asked for, received, and paid for my coffee, and walked to a small table in the corner. The boys walked through the entrance, and the boy who appeared to be the oldest walked up to the counter where he was asked by the person running the counter if she could help him.

“Do you still have one dollar drinks?

“Yes, any size drink for one dollar.”

“I would like a large soda and three straws.”

Noticeable lack of manners on the boy’s end of the conversation, but that is another post. The boy was given his large soda cup and three straws. He paid his money and joined his friends at a booth to share their drink.

For about thirty seconds all was well with the boys. Suddenly one boy says loudly that he does not want any more of the soda because one of the other boys spit in it. Of course it was denied by both of them, and the accuser reaffirmed his accusation of spitting in the shared soda cup along with a name and pointed finger.

The questionably guilty boy stated he was not spitting into the soda. He was blowing bubbles, as he always did with his soda. The third boy sided with the accuser, stating how that is wrong to do that when they all three were sharing a soda. He finished saying he did not want any more soda either, pushing the cup to the bubble blower.

Both offended and defensive, the accused bubble blower did not know what to do. He had a whole soda to himself, but his friends were angry with him. They were telling him how they spent their money on a drink for all of them, and he ruined it by blowing bubbles into the soda and getting spit in the soda. The guilty boy, not being able to think of a way out of the dilemma, stood up and walked to the soda machine where he poured out the soda, and threw the cup away.

While this may be a short story of a small event concerning three young boys sharing a soda, there are valuable pointers and tips that may be gleaned from this situation.

The boys had a plan which was mostly successful. They applied previously tested and beneficial problem solving techniques to their small group. The boys had learned to cooperate getting to the fast food place, which was over one-half mile from the closest housing, and across a busy six lane street, which is at times no small feat in itself.

The boys had cooperated pooling their change to buy a shared soda. Arriving at the restaurant, the boys used sound teamwork techniques in finding a spot on the building where their bicycles could all be locked together. They behaved as expected once inside, with two of the boys going to a booth, while the third ordered their drink. They each had their own straw to drink from.

Up to this moment the boys were working as a team. They probably have been in each others company long enough they knew what to do without thinking about it. Each knew his role and each of them perhaps was pliable enough to exchange leadership roles and direct activities as needed.

Where their plan unravelled was in the actual drinking of the soda. The soda was the ultimate prize. All their planning, working together, and coordination was accomplished for this single goal of having a cold drink on a hot day for as little money as possible.

What the boys failed to plan for was how they would enjoy their soda jointly. Their planning and teamwork fell apart at this moment. They had not previously discussed their expectations of each others drinking habits before buying the soda. Each of them thought the other two would drink in a manner they all would find acceptable. As a result, their plan was not accomplished and they all lost something in the process.

Often we find ourselves in the same situations in our own life. We each have goals or end points of some type we are always working towards, wether business or personal. We flesh out our plans and start putting them into action. We make small adjustments and tweaks as we go. If we planned well enough, and we enjoy a little good fortune we arrive at our goal. Now what?

People who have achieved a long range goal, and then lost it shortly thereafter are all around us, all we have to do is look. Couples marry, and between the husband and wife they are working three jobs to afford the things they want for their life. Then they separate because they have grown apart becoming strangers.

Successful business people who spent years building their business lose it over something that has nothing to do with running a business. Each week we may hear or read of someone wins a lottery or receives a substantial amount of money, only to wake up broke a few years later.

It is important to have a plan no matter how vague it may be. It is vital to have a plan that includes the end point in it. Whether the end point is sharing a soda, working towards a future, or building a business, it is as important to plan through the process of achieving the desired result as it is taking the first step of turning an idea into action.

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Life cycles up and life cycles down

There was a time in my life when I was sure that something was trying to keep me from succeeding. I would start something, usually a new job, and everything would be well for a while. The problems would slowly start creeping into my life. When that happened I would think, oh no, here I go again….

Some problems would be big problems, such as a major theft at my place of employment. Once there was a woman I worked with who was dating a Policeman. His patrol car had been vandalized. Of course I was initially part of the suspects who could have committed the theft and later vehicle damage.

Other times it might be problems with the Boss and I not getting along, or having different viewpoints on how something should be done, or not done. At any rate, it always appeared that when life was starting to go in the direction I thought it should, something would happen to slow things down, or create a temporary roadblock.

If it was not work, it would be car problems. My car would break down during those times when I had the least amount of money to fix it. If not my car, something else would break in the house. A window would get broken, the heater would have problems. It was always something that was going wrong and stopping the nice smooth path I thought I was on.

Over time I started to see a pattern, and I was in the middle of it. I had some areas that I needed to work on and I did. After I had myself in order, I noticed problems still occasionally happened. My car still would break down, or there would be a leaking faucet where I lived that of course would cost money to repair.

I also noticed another pattern in my life. Well, not just in my life, but in everyone’s life. Just like all the planets and the moon run on a cycle of sorts, so do we. I don’t mean we run on a set cycle of so many good days, followed by so many bad days. Our lives do run on a cycle of sorts, and it is a completely natural occurrence.

All life has upward cycles, and our life has downward cycles. If you are familiar with alternating current of household electricity, or a sine wave in math or physics, it is the same principle. We start on an upward cycle, and eventually hit the peak, then we start a downward cycle approaching the bottom.

It is how we manage these cycles that determine how successful we are in our lives. Knowing there are ups and downs in our lives, and expecting them to occur, we find out they are not as tragic as we thought they were. These cycles add balance to our lives.

We need balance in our lives. Without balance we would have no reference point to judge how we are doing. Knowing we have cycles in our lives, we learn to start planning for the times when everything is not going our way.

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