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Change you, change your world

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Between, or out of a relationship, feeling like you are the only person in the world who is not really part of the world? Everywhere you look people seem to be happy, enjoying the company of the person(s) they are with and enjoying life in general? Yet you feel alone and isolated from everything? Sound familiar? If so, guess what? The only difference between you and the people you see around you is the color of the grass.

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, that is our nature. It is one of the truisms of our lives in this reality. Everybody looks happy at the particular moment you are looking at them because that is what you expect to see. You are expecting a whole world of happy people, and the world does everything it can to help you achieve your desire.

Don’t believe me? Let’s make a test out of it where you can verify the results for yourself. When you are going out in public the next time look at the people around you. I bet you will see exactly what you expect to see. Mostly happy people, paired or in a group, smiling and having fun.

The second time before you go out, make it a conscious effort to see people how they really are. Look at them expecting to see the real person, not the actor or actress because they know they are being watched. Look for those moments when they let their guard down because they think no one is watching them. What did you see after actively looking for people as they really are, not what they are pretending to be?

The third time you are out in public, ignore all the couples and groups. Spend your time instead observing those single unattached people. The people who are all around and walking around just like you are. How happy do they look? If you live in a big city or work for a big company this exercise is much simpler, because your pool of test subjects are there every day.

People in big cities like the world to think that generally they are really happy, but few are. Seeing the the real them, you rarely see any happiness radiating out. They generally mirror a look that ranges anywhere from mild determination, to barely disguised anger, on their faces and in their posturing.

In this experiment did you see yourself in any of the people you observed on the three different occasions? If you did, which group of people would you place yourself with? The happy, life is great people, the people who look like they are just trying to get through and escape out the other end, or those people who are really not happy, and do not care if the world knows it?

The wonderful thing about whatever group you think you fit in, is you are there by your choice and not by any misfortune, or anything you do not control. The world is a funny place, and at the same time it is full of mystery and the unknown. The slice of the world you are experiencing is the world you expect to see, and the world bends itself to your will.

Change how you think; put a smile on your face and the world will change to fit you. Think about how unfair life is, and how unhappy you are, and the world will do its best to bring events and people into your life to reinforce your expectations. You control and mold the world around you to whatever you want the world to be, but you probably are not aware you do this. The world as we experience it waits for you to decide what you want to experience and then makes it happen.

Just like the commercial about what’s in your wallet, you control what is your world. You will always be somewhat alone unless you make it your life’s goal to meld with the world, but you do not need to feel alone in the world, either, you are the creator of your reality. Create the reality you are happiest in, not the one you think you belong in.

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Unhappy with your life? Change your mind then

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To see the way our minds shape our reality is really something to behold! I often wonder how many people really understand just how much we create and control our world around us? For many people, I think when something good happens they feel lucky. On the other hand when something bad happens they feel unlucky. In the more extreme cases a few people feel life or something in it is out to get them.

I remember many times when I was out walking the streets of places I had never been to before, where one or more people have told me after the fact, they would never walk down those streets by themselves because they are just too dangerous. For myself, I went out in those areas with the thought that the people living there were just like me, and they were trying to do the best they could for their own lives using what they had to work with.

In all my years of wandering in places where the more cautious would not go, I only had a problem once, and I brought that on myself. I have walked into some of the slums of south Chicago, Gary, Los Angeles, Jerusalem, Minneapolis, Munich, and Seoul, and never had a problem, even though I had been lost more than once into areas where I clearly did not fit in

In south Chicago, there were two men at my departure point. One said to the other, twenty he doesn’t, and the other said okay. I thought nothing of it as I completed my one mile walk to a place where a cab could find me. When I returned the same two men were there, and one was giving the other money. I asked what the money was for. The man told me it was a bet on whether or not I would be murdered before I made it to a cab….

It is a perfect example of how people in the same neighborhood can have completely different expectations about how their life is, and they can both be correct. In almost any city in the country, in any neighborhood, life for the most part is how the individual perceives it. When we choose only to see gangs and violence, that is what we see. When we choose to see a drug riddled neighborhood, that is what we find.

On the other hand, if we expect to find good people trying their best to live a good life, that is what we will find. If we believe we are alone, we find loneliness, if we see the world as a friendly helpful place, we find goodness. Of course there are places that are exceptions, because the world that exists there has been in place so long, and the peoples minds so beaten down, that no other type of thought can penetrate the thinking of the people in that area. Short of a major life altering event, their perceptions and existence will never change.

Our minds operate like this for us in all our states, both conscious, unconscious, awake, and asleep. We are the creators of our world, and whatever we choose to think, our mind goes to work to start creating that world for us. It happens in a way we never notice, but it happens just the same.

We create our own world around us, therefore we can also change our world any time we wish. Rarely does something happen without our allowing it too or even anticipating it happening. As an extreme example, think about someone addicted to drugs.

At some point in time earlier in their life, they had to make a decision about their world. An offer of trying a hard drug appeared in their life and they had to decide if that was a life change they wanted or not. At some level they decided they wanted to go down that path. We need to be good stewards of our own life and ensure the life we envision is the life we want to live. If there is conflict between our vision and our life, we can change it.

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