Know your death, and live a better life

Carlos Castaneda wrote many pages on the subject, as he transcribed the thoughts of Don Juan and others onto paper. Castaneda wrote with much passion about being intimate with ones own death. The Marine Corps alludes to this in every commercial, as does the Army, probably the Air Force and Navy to a lesser extent.

The Marine Corps is not satisfied with a hot body to mindlessly charge a machine gun nest. The Marine Corps wants people who are intimately aware of their own death. People who are intimate with their own death are more aware than other people, and generally, when they do something it is for the right reasons. That may sound silly, but it is not. If the Marine Core just wanted cannon fodder, they would not be focused on the extreme, and intensive training each recruit goes through before he or she is entitled to call themselves a Marine.

When I first read Castaneda, I thought to myself, he was being silly and overly dramatic. We are all going to die someday, so who cares? That is exactly what Castaneda and the Marine Corps care about. Most people walking the earth today simply do not care about their pending death. They are either scared of the thought, or they push it out into that place we put everything that will occur sometime, but not soon.

If I wished to waste your time, I could list thousands of examples of people who never considered their death in any fashion, and without warning they ceased to exist. I can name only a few people that I know personally who have really taken the time to contemplate their death and have become intimate with it.

Those folks that are intimate with their own deaths know their is no time to waste. Wasting time is not the same as doing nothing. Wasting time is not caring about your own individual actions or their effects on others and the world around you. Wasting time because there is always a time in the future to make things right.

People who are intimate with their death know that that future may end in the next instant, and they do not have a guarantee of any future time. When I began to have an understanding of this concept it seemed sort of silly. Of course I have plenty of time. I have tomorrow, probably next month, most likely next year, and so on, and so forth.

People who are intimate with their own death live with a different thinking about time. They understand that they may not be here tomorrow, so they do everything in a right now time. They know they do not have time to ignore their children, their spouse, or themselves. Ten minutes from now may be too late for them to come back and correct any mistakes, apologize, or decide to pay attention.

This does not mean that people who are intimate with their own deaths are morbid, or fixated on the end of their lives, because they are not. What they are is more mindful, aware of their actions, and how they affect those around them. They are generally less prone to quick bursts of anger. They are more open with their feelings, and appear to have thicker skins than others in their social group. They are also more comfortable with themselves because they are intimate with their own deaths.

Like anyone else, they do not know when their death is going to happen, or how it will happen, but they know it could be in the next five minutes. Because of this knowledge they are more careful to make this minute count. As uncomfortable as it may sound, try to contemplate your own death, and become friends with it. It will change your life for the better in ways you never thought possible. You will begin to understand how precious and brief your life, and the lives of those around you really are.

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Basic truth, sharing, and the fundamentals of belief

I remember as a child, different religious people coming to our door, knocking and preaching, and then the anger it would set off in my parents. Not because they were atheists or anti-religion, but because they saw these people as an invasion of their privacy, and an interruption in their day. The end result was normally raised voices, and a demand to leave the property.

When I was living on my own, and these folks came to my door, I would encourage them to share with me what they believed to be their truth. After one or two visits and no arguing, I would not see them again. At one function I attended some years ago, I found myself in conversation with one of the men who used to knock on my door.

I asked why he did not visit any more with his friends? I was curious both about what more they would tell me, and also why they stopped trying to convert me. This man told me they thought I was a minister of some kind, and there was no sense trying to convert me.

I thought that was funny, because a minister was the last thing I would have considered myself to be! After a while they all quit coming around to try to convert me, and I forgot about them. Some time later, I moved to a bigger city, and there the process started all over again. The outcome was about the same, except after listening to the many different versions of what they had to say, some of them would ask me what I thought?

This was my opportunity to explain what I have learned over the years to them. The sum of what I learned from my own reading, talking, and some television programs has taught me a lot. I shared with them those things I found to be common in everything they had told me over the years plus what I learned on my own.

Each group has a slightly different version of how this all came about. None of us here today really knows what the true story is, or even if any what we believe is true, or made up. I was not there, and you were not there, so we can only speculate on what is the truth. Thankfully it does not matter.

If you imagine a special present, it is easier to explain. As I remove the bow, the ribbons, and wrapping from the package and open the box, I see the fundamentals we all share. When I look closely, some basic truths becomes evident.

We are all one family.

None of us has a monopoly the truth.

It is our responsibility to live the best life we can.

We should try to love and be good to one another.

We should do our best to treat each other with respect.

We all come from the same place. Not one of us on earth comes from somewhere else.

That is all there is to living well, everything else is fluff.

Some of these people, after hearing me did not know what to say. One of them decided they would be sending an Elder to speak to me as I was obviously confused, thinking this way. Others have put up futile reply’s, but quit part way through when they realize there is no real argument. I usually never see them anymore, as there is nothing for them to argue over, and no one to convince.

It is much easier to keep it simple, as simple allows for more agreement, and less argument. If there is nothing to argue over, then these folks have nothing to discuss. Take away the argument, and you take away the wind in the sails. Happy sailing!

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